Monday, May 19, 2014

Day #59: Taking a Break...To Avoid the Ugly

Throughout this process I have realized how much I struggle.  There are more days than I'd like to admit that just don't go the way I'd like.  As a family, I feel we are in need of a makeover.  We need a fresh start.  We have all developed bad habits and at times our behavior towards each other leaves a lot to be desired.  Once the cycle begins, it is so difficult to back up and break out of this funk we all find ourselves in.

As the responsible adults, this change is going to have to begin with us:  the parents.  It is time to set some goals and change some of our bad habits.  The first I'd like to see go is the yelling.  Let me tell you, there are times when we feel it is the only way our children can hear us in this house. These kids get downright loud (and a bit out of control with the silly antics at times).  We generally start out using our normal voice, but after two or three times of being ignored I think we feel we have no other option but to yell.  I really don't enjoy raising my voice, but I get so frustrated I just don't know what else to do!

It is hard to be the best parent you can be when you are tired and your patience has been tested too many times in a day to count.  One of my goals is to have an hour break each day.  Kids need to be in their rooms for quiet times while the baby sleeps.  I am hoping this will give me the opportunity to close my eyes for a few minutes and simply regroup.  There are times we just all need a break.  Lately I've read about taking a time-out...for yourself!  If your patience is wearing thin and you are feeling like things are going to get ugly, tell your kids you are taking a time-out in your room.  I think I am going to give that a try!  Let's be honest, I think we can all agree there are times we just want to lock the door and pretend we're alone, if only for a bit!

What do you do when you get to the boiling point?  Forge ahead, lash out, or escape for a bit?


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