tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452497754511714574.post9007352874415516495..comments2014-05-09T12:42:43.217-07:00Comments on Motherhood 180: A Journey of Positive Change : Day #8: The Painful Realizationhawkmomof4http://www.blogger.com/profile/02458816468155828155noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452497754511714574.post-31741512929423011612014-03-29T05:41:36.223-07:002014-03-29T05:41:36.223-07:00I've been there, friend. I was there yesterday...I've been there, friend. I was there yesterday... Not the worst I've ever been, but a glimmer of it. One child lost his mind upon returning home from school. I tried listening to him. I tried a brief response. His tantrum begins, as he didn't get what he wanted. I tried explaining. Tantrum ensued. I PUT him in the garage and told him I wanted him to be able to come in and have lunch once he was able to be calm, kind, and respectful. He stayed out there and cried, so I started the dishes and ignored him. He eventually came in, making a big production, which I ignored. I don't know what I should have done differently. The whole walking away, shutting a door, breathing for a moment, yes, I need that to. <br /><br />This is the same child that woke up in a good mood, but lost his mind because someone said "good morning" to him first. This is also the child that was SO irritated when I pointed out the wild life while driving by the river on our way to school. <br /><br />Eggshells. I feel like I am walking on eggshells often. <br /><br />I'm hoping we can walk/run in the morning once it warms up a bit, which would give us both some time, some exercise and the opportunity and get to catch up.<br /><br />I used to go for a quick walk after my husband came home, really, just a 5-10 minute walk, but I've gotten away from that habit. I would come back home refreshed and ready for the next parenting shift. I think I need to try that again, too. <br /><br />Last thing, I've figured out that there are SO many things that my husband will never get, understand, be able to fully appreciate, BUT, if I tell him something is important to me, and it's reasonable, than I do hope/expect he'll work with me to try and make it happen. I certainly don't understand how it can be fun to go ice fishing for 5 days in freezing cold Minnesota, but it is important to him. He comes back renewed and refreshed, therefore I work with him to make it happen. You and your husband both deserve those opportunities to be renewed. <br /><br />I hope you can get a little time for yourself this weekend!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com